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Grief without relief

Dear Readers: Today’s SOUND OFF is about the grieving process when you lose a pet.

— Heloise

“Dear Heloise: We recently had to have our beautiful 17-year-old black Lab put to sleep due to kidney disease. I can’t even begin to explain the grief and pain we feel at the loss of this sweet pet. I just wish people would stop saying things such as, ‘You can always get another dog.’ Yes, we can, but nothing takes the place of a beloved pet. Or ‘Time heals all wounds.’ Sure, but right now, I’m grieving the death of my dog, and I don’t want to hear things like this.

“I wish people would just listen when I need to vent about my sorrow. I don’t want to hear about the death of someone else’s pet; I’m too consumed by my own loss. Please, just let us grieve when we lose a dear pet. Listen without offering advice, and don’t brush off our loss, because it’s very real and very painful to us.”

— Mavis G., Marietta, Ga.

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Heloise

P.O. Box 795000

San Antonio, TX 78279-5000

Fax: 1-210-HELOISE

Email: Heloise(at)Heloise.com

Fast facts

Dear Heloise: I have some rubber shelf liner left over, and I’ve found several more uses for it:

∫ I cut out a square and placed it under a sofa cushion that kept slipping forward.

∫ I put it under my pet’s bedding to keep it from sliding across the kitchen floor.

∫ I cut a small square and used it to remove pet hair from my furniture.

∫ I wrapped a few delicate things in the liner before shipping them by mail.

— Loretta W., Springfield, Mo.

Cast care

Dear Heloise: As a nurse, I’ve seen many casts put on people who’ve broken a bone, and there are a few things we normally tell the patient to help them avoid injuries. First, don’t use a wire hanger or any sharp object to scratch an itch under the cast. Try sprinkling baby powder under the cast. If a cast gets wet, use a blow-dryer set on low heat to dry the cast. You also can use an old sock or knit cap to keep your toes or fingers clean and warm.

— Lois G., Livonia, Mich.

The very last drop

Dear Heloise: I generally buy 32-ounce jars of mayonnaise, and the last inch or more is so difficult to get out. I discovered that a frosting spatula does the job easily.

— Leslie W., Alexandria, Va.

Jigsaw puzzles

Dear Heloise: I make a lot of jigsaw puzzles. When I first open the box, I pour all the pieces into a colander and shake it over the trash bucket, thus getting rid of the paper sawdust.

— M.Z.S., Santa Ana, Calif.

Easy email

Dear Readers: When sending email to someone who might have trouble with his or her eyes, enlarge the font. Size 12 to 14 or bigger is easier to read. Your recipient will thank you!

— Heloise

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